Pressure at parties
There can sometimes be pressure at parties to do things that you don't want to do or don't feel comfortable doing. It might be things like a kissing game, playing spin the bottle, playing truth or dare and being dared to do things that you feel are wrong.
Some kids will do these things when they really don't want to because they are worried that other kids will make fun of them, or they want to be liked and to fit in. Some kids are curious to try something new and so go along with things even though it might not feel right. The idea that everyone else is doing something can make it hard for some kids to follow their own feelings about what they know is right for them.
In this situation it can be helpful to:
- Pay attention to your own feelings and beliefs about what is right for you
- Think about how you might feel afterwards if you do something that you don't really want to do
- Look for someone else in the group who seems hesitant about joining in - having even one friend who doesn't want to go along with the group can help you resist the pressure to do something
- Have the self confidence to say what you think - you may be surprised that it just might give others the confidence to stand up to the pressure too
We don't always make the best choices, so if you are at a party and give in to pressure to do something that you didn't really want to do, don't give yourself a hard time. Perhaps it would be good to talk to someone you trust about what happened and how you might prepare better for the next time you are in a similar situation.
If you would like to talk some more about parties you can call Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week or use our email or web counselling services. We will listen to you and help you work out what might help.
Published: 10 April 2012