Was emotionally abused
16 year old female
It was almost a year ago when we first started going out. We only went out for 2 months but that was certainly enough. The first month was great but the second was horrible. He would also do really annoying things like pinch, bite, and would sometimes hit me. I would tell him to stop and then he would act really apologetic.
He was controlling, obsessed, and possessive of me. There are so many incidents that I could describe to explain the way he acted, but the main problem was he would do something bad and then act sorry when I got upset at him for it.
I kept making excuses for him in my head for the way he treated me. It got to a point where I feared to be alone with him. I knew I had to break up with him after he tried to sexually abuse me for the second time. Breaking up with him was the best thing I ever did. I had to wait til I was out of town (away from him) to break up with him over phone because I was scared he would hurt me if I broke up with him face to face.
After a little while I accepted that I had been abused; emotionally abused. While I was going out with him, deep down I knew I was being abused, but I kept telling myself "It's not as bad as the type of abuse other people have been through so I shouldn't complain".
I regret not breaking up with him sooner, I feel the whole dilemma could have been avoided if I did. I have learnt that all types of abuse are bad, not just the physical and sexual kind, and if you think or know you are being abused, that you should tell someone you trust and that you are close to. Although I am still saddened by what happened last year, it has taught me what kind of personalities to stay away from so I don't get into the same situation that I did a year ago.
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